I never write about sex on my blog because my parents read it. But the need for better sex education among adults is trumping any discomfort there. Plus, I’m a grown up..
Sexual incompatibility and infidelity are the number one cause of divorce. This is a massive shame considering at least half of this equation is something well within our control, if only we took the time to address it.
I created MavenYou as a place to learn new things, expand thinking on old things, and ultimately become a bit of a maven in your own life- one digestible bite at a time.
For the month of February I’ll be doing my best to share my research, experience, and resources on the topic of healthy sexuality within a long term relationship. Most content will be found in on Instagram, @MavenYou, in Stories, then added to highlights later on.
I’m not a sex therapist or scholar on the topic, but I have gathered many quality resources and most importantly, I’m not scared. I have been studying this topic since the day my friend Hannah and I looked it up in Webster’s in the 5th grade.
It became more of a mission as I frequently met women who struggled to enjoy sex, watched marriages stagnate and end because of fixable challenges, and saw a giant void of helpful information and discussion in my community.
I plan to stay out of the How-To’s of sex but to direct you to where you can find that. My biggest focus is on the context and mindset in which we experience sexuality. As Esther Perel says, sex is not an act, it’s an environment. Once you get the mindset, the motivation, and the value, the nuts and bolts are the easy part.
Please let your friends who may be looking for an easy, private way to broach this topic to follow along this month. At least once a week I get an email from someone who knows someone about to get married or about to get divorced, and sex is the common theme.
Many people within a more conservative community struggle to know where to look. Send them over!
I will treat the subject with respect, keep it clean(ish), and am absolutely open to feedback, suggestions, questions, and stories. Send send send.
Anything you send me will remain 100% anonymous. If you want to keep me from knowing who you are, go to mavenyou.com and contact me, no ID required.
Let’s make some love in the month of love ❤️